This is a great quote from the movie, Bridemaids!
Too many times I was stuck in looking at the problems and everything that was going wrong in my life. Other people were not doing what I needed them to do to feel safe, secure and whole. Other people hurt me and used me. Even things such as finances. I blamed it all on others. I never took responsibility for “my part” in this endless cycle. Truthfully, I was stuck in the thinking that I didn’t have a part. As far as I was concerned, I was doing everything right.
I had to come to the place of understanding that I did have a part. How I reacted to things and how I let them affect me were my parts. It took believing and respecting myself to realize that I was the one in control of my life, regardless of what happened or who hurt me. I am responsible for my thoughts and actions, or lack there of. I am responsible for the way I allow people to treat me. I have no control over how they treat me but I do have control to allow it or stand up for myself. I can stay in unhealthy relationships or I can walk away.
I could go on and on but I really don’t need to. If there is a problem in my life, I am the solution!